I have had the wonderful opportunity to work in the restaurant business for the last 18 years. Currently I am responsible for 10 stores. This equates to approximately 25-30 managers, several assistants, and 300-400 employees. This could be deemed as a stressful situation for some, where others may look at this and say, "Piece of cake!" It's all on your outlook and capability to handle more.
When I first started in management I will say that I often felt stressed out. I was stressed that someone maybe wasn't doing their job correctly, I was stressed at a guest complaining about their food. I used to get stressed at the amount of prep work that had to get done, or how large the order was that just came in. I used to get an ulcer in my stomach because I was so stressed out. I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat properly. I was drinking more that I probably should have been. I didn't know how to deal with stress.
Then, one of my managers once told me, "Jesse, what is stress? Can you see it? Where is it? What you need to realize is that stress is sometimes in our imagination." He told me not to sweat the small stuff and that if something was stressing me out to do something about it.
Here is a great quote that helps me deal with stress:
"If you can't change it, don't worry about it.
If you can change it, then do something about it."
There are many times in life when we are presented with situations that we cannot change, or do anything about. There are also many times in our lives that we are presented with situations that we actually do have control over, like our attitudes. A lot of times we choose to stress ourself out. Stress is a way of "being" or "feeling", just as confidence is a way of "being" or "feeling." If we can choose our feelings, our thoughts, our ways of "being", why would we want to choose stress over confidence, control, clarity, peace, etc...? I would prefer choosing calmness and control next time I am presented with a possible stressful situation.
Ways to deal with stress:
Dealing with stress can take it's toll on you physically, emotionally, behaviorally, and cognitively. It can affect the way you feel, your relationships, your health, and your actions. Why would you want to let something else that you have control over, affect your overall happiness in life? Let's look at some ways you can deal with stress:
- It's all about your attitude:
Give yourself an attitude tune-up. Ask yourself, Am I in control in this situation? Can I change it or do I need to accept it and move on? A lot of times we can complain about a situation we have absolutely no control over. What good does that do? Check out the article on "Attitude" for a great quote.
- Develop a method of dealing with stress:
What is your stress relief? You have to have a way to relieve stress and manage how you feel. Get in tune with your feelings. Be connected to your inner thoughts and voice inside your head. Learn to recognize when you are beginning to feel stressed out and take corrective action. We all have a boiling point. Some people's boiling point is much higher than others. Some people seem to never get to their boiling point, where others seem to live on the edge of their boiling point. It is important to have a relief outlet. Working out, exercising, going for a run, reading a book, going to the beach, taking a nap, drinking more water, yoga, meditation, going to the park, playing a sport, getting a massage, are all great ways to deal with stress and manage your situation so you do not get overworked and burnt out.
In summary, stress is all on your outlook and how you deal with it. Are you going to let it get to you? Or are you going to unlock your potential and develop the skills needed to not let that be an excuse and hold you back from achieving your goals, and advancing in your career?
Here is another great quote:
"The pro is the person who has all the hassles, obstacles, and disappointing frustrations that everyone else has. Yet continues to persist, does the job, and makes it look easy."
- David Cooper, Sales Trainer
I challenge you to unlock your potential in how you deal with stress and your outlook on dealing with obstacles in your life. If you can't change it don't worry about, don't get "stressed" over it. If you can change it, don't get "stressed" over it, do something about it! We create our life and choose our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and feelings.
Until next time...